Yep, I'm marrying him again.

I was just talking with a girl the other day and she told me, "I can't believe you're marrying the same man again. Especially after ten years. Me and my old man haven't been together a year yet and I'm ready to get rid of him". It's heartbreaking, really, it is. But, I suppose when you live in a world of "quick fixes", "magic pills", and cheap divorces, that's just the way it is.
My grandparents married in June of 1952. My aunt was born in October of 58 and my Daddy came along is 61. In the late 90's, my grandma, following a few strokes, developed Alzheimer's disease. It was during that time, those last few years, that I truly understood the meaning of "in sickness and in health". My grand-daddy sat beside her bed everyday, through everything. In December of 2004, Christmas eve, my grandma went home to be with her Lord. My grand-daddy cried, but he told me, "kana, I've been with that woman for 52 year. She was my life. She gave me two wonderful kids, and they gave me two grandkids. I'm going to miss her, but I just hope heaven's ready for her. She was a mess, that woman. She could turn me upside down in a heartbeat, and have me clammering to stand backup just to do it all over again.". Since then, he's continued his life, and been blessed with 5 great grand children, two of which he never got the chance to see, but he knows they're in Heaven being enjoyed, and spoiled my their great-grandma. Christian was waiting for her when she got there, and Bailey Jay joined her in 2009. He's still kickin' and God as my witness, the man's new goal, since he reached the goal of being married to one woman forever, is to reach 100 to be on a smucker's jelly jar on the Today show. He just turned 90 this past december. I think he'll make it.

My parents will celebrate their 31st anniversary just one month before Brian and I renew our vows. Christopher joined Heaven's Choir in the winter of 81, and in July of 84, I came along. I can tell you, in those 30 years, they have been to hell and back with one another. Mama has stood by my daddy as he fought addictions, and Daddy stood crying outside the operating room as mama went through open heart surgery in 2002. he held her hand as the doctors explained bonal reconstruction for a crushed foot from a car wreck. He built a ramp for her to go in and out of their house b/c of the disabilities from the wreck. he's there to massage all the pain away when her lupus or arthritis is acting up, and he's there to make sure she keeps a check on her blood sugar. She keeps his laundry washed, the house cleaned, and the food cooked, and doesn't complain when he wants a hamburger. Again, for the third time in one week. They're a funny couple, a argumentative couple at times, but they're in love. I can see it. No one else can, but in their own ways, they're head over heals in love with each other. Even if they won't admit it half the time. LOL

Then there is brian and me. In august of 2002, I was involved in a car accident. I was thrown from the car, and the man in the car that I hit was killed. The night of the wreck, brian sat by my side the entire time. The nurse told me the next morning after the anesthesia wore off, and I was showering, "honey, he hasn't left that chair out there the whole night. you got a good one. most of them step out to smoke, get a bite to eat. Not him. He's been there, crying and praying the whole night". In January of 04, our first child went home to be with Jesus, and our fourth son, Bailey joined him in 09. between those years, we, too, have been to hell and back. We've had our share of arguments, but a wise man told me, in a dream, once, that it's not a matter of the arguments or the fights or the he said/she said that makes a marriage. It's the things that happen between them that counts. If you forgive and move on, so with they and your relationship will prosper. If you hold something against them, you might as well go see the judge the next day. It's not going to work. I've never been able to hold anything against that man. Even when I tried my hardest. God truly created Brian for me and me for Brian, and we're just as madly in love as we were the day we met. (yes, love at first sight is FO REAL, lol) AND YES!!! I'm marrying him again. I can't wait. I'm as excited today as I was the day he proposed the first time. I love that man!